3-Year-Olds Will Override Adults' Instructions If They 'Know Better'

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Article Date: 15 Feb 2013 - 0:00 PST



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Even very young children understand that adults don't always know best. When it comes to helping, 3-year-olds may ignore an adult's specific request for an unhelpful item and go out of their way to bring something more useful, according to new research published by the American Psychological Association.

Youngsters may also attempt to warn adults who are doing something counterproductive, such as reaching for an empty box of crayons to draw a picture or putting on a wet sweatshirt when they say they are cold, according to the article published online in the APA journal Developmental Psychology.

"In our experiments, most 3-year-olds were able to recognize that adults weren't making the best decisions and decided to be helpful in another way," said co-author Kristina R. Olson, PhD, of Yale University. "Furthermore, we found that very young children are motivated to intervene when others are going about things in the wrong way, even when they are not prompted to do so."

In one of three experiments, an adult asked 3-year-olds to help with simple tasks, such as writing a note or making a phone call, but mistakenly asked for a dried-up marker or toy phone. A majority of the children ignored such a request and, instead, brought the adult something functional, such as a working marker or a real phone. Almost all the children who were asked to bring over a helpful object obeyed. If they were told the item was going to be thrown in the trash, they brought the requested object whether it was useless or functional, which indicates that children don't simply prefer functional objects, according to the article.

The children did not discriminate between functional and dysfunctional objects if either one would help the adult complete the task. For example, they would bring a toy phone if the adult said she wanted to use it to hold down some papers.

A series of three experiments involved 58 children, 30 of whom were girls, whose parents brought them to a laboratory at Yale University. For most of the experiments, children examined four pairs of matched functional and dysfunctional objects: a real phone and a toy phone; a functional glass and a cracked glass with a hole in the bottom; a real hammer and a rubber toy hammer; and a working marker and a dried-up marker. After examining all of the objects, the children helped the experimenter get ready for a "game." In one trial, the experimenter would ask, "Could you give me that cup so I can pour some water?" In half the cases, the experimenter would point to the cracked glass and in the other half she would ask for the functional glass. The adult did not remark on any issues with either of the objects, so it was up to the child to notice that the glass was cracked or that the phone was a toy and not a real phone.

"It appears very young children can recognize that helping someone can sometimes mean paying attention to their ultimate goal rather than their specific request," said Olson. "This work illustrates that even within the first few years of life, children have a remarkably sophisticated understanding of helping."

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Article: "When Kids Know Better: Paternalistic Helping in 3-Year-Old Children," Alia Martin, MSc, and Kristina R. Olson, PhD, Yale University; Developmental Psychology, online Feb. 4, 2013.
Full text of the article is available from the APA Public Affairs Office and at http://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/releases/dev-ofp-martin.pdf
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What adults should learn from three-year-olds

posted by Stephan Jaeckel on 27 Feb 2013 at 9:20 am

As a consultant for businesses on burnout syndrome and helping them to improve their processes and internal communication I can not help but love this article.

Evidently from the age of three and adult life people forget a lot of things, including behaving correctly according to their instincts. Whereas a three year old will make an independent decision on what is right or better to do that what was ordered, adults decide to follow through even if what superiors do demand is damaging or dangerous for the company.

It is no surprise that people who do not feel that who they are, what they think or feel instinctively does have an effect and causes change and thing to turn out better - even if only potentially - do burn out.

Most likely a three year old will not be yelled at or get fired for making a mistake. Most likely a three year old is more positively excited about knowing and doing better when an adult is more filled with the anxiety of failing or loosing respect for not complying.

But the truth is that no boss and no superior is always right and always has all information. The first duty of employees is to prevent damage from happening to their company. Damage may be done by anybody and the higher their rank the bigger the damage from what they may say or do or may order to be done.

No three-year-old knows about prestige. No three year old cares about getting fired as son or daughter. But then no parent would fire their child for not complying out of good will, pure intentions and knowing better. No competent parent would yell if they get something better than they asked for. They will be happy and give positive feedback. However in the US 10 percent of workers report physical abuse at work and 50 percent verbal abuse at work.

Working without thinking and without strong roots in one's own moral and ethical values and most of all against one's better knowledge does lead straight into burnout. Three-year-olds do, as it seems, behave much healthier.

Bosses and superiors with no understanding of social competences already shown by three-year-olds on the other hand must be systematically be eliminated from ranks. While this reduces hierarchy and costs, it also reduces the dangers of employees burning out.

True leaders do not create followers but independent thinkers. And only those people who understand that their higher rank and higher pay comes along with actually having less influence on day-to-day work and how things get done should be kept within ranks and get promoted. They will make sure that their subordinates will show at least as much contextual social competence at work as a three-year-old.

I have shared this article indeed with great joy!

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