What is Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)?

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Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a serious emotional condition, typically with a tendency towards unstable and turbulent emotions, heightened anger, feelings of emptiness, and fears of being left alone.

An individual with borderline personality disorder finds it hard to cope with limiting demands of the world around them. They will often take impulsive actions, and as a result, have relationships which become chaotic and unstable. The sufferer's sense of identity may be affected, and relationships with work colleagues, friends and household members may turbulent.

A BPD patient may seem calm and serene one moment, and then suddenly explode in outbursts of anger or rage at what they may perceive as disapproval or rejection.

BPD is often misunderstood. It is more common than other recognized mental illnesses, such as schizophrenia and bipolar disorder. BPD is a serious condition because many people with the condition are prone to self-harm and attempt suicide.

According to Medilexicon's medical dictionary:

Borderline Personality Disorder is "an enduring and pervasive pattern that begins by early adulthood and is characterized by impulsivity and unpredictability, unstable interpersonal relationships, inappropriate or uncontrolled affect, especially anger, identity disturbances, rapid shifts of mood, suicidal acts, self-mutilations, job and marital instability, chronic feelings of emptiness or boredom, and intolerance of being alone."


The term "borderline" comes from the assessment in the 1940s that the disorder was on the border between psychosis and neurosis. But that analysis is no longer relevant. BPD is best understood as a disorder of mood and how a person interacts with others.

Although the causes of BPD are unclear, it appears to be the result of a combination of genetic and environmental factors. Traumatic events that occur during childhood (parental neglect, abandonment, physical, sexual or emotional abuse) are a major risk factor for developing BPD. It is most common in young women. Treatment consists of psychotherapy and medications.

What are the signs and symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder?

People affected with BPD are terrified of being alone. However, they push others away with their mood swings and erratic behavior. Their identity is blurry and as a result their interests, goals and opinions may shift quickly. They have a tendency to view things and people in terms of extremes alternating between idealization and devaluation. Ordinary details can set off impulsive reactions of anger or despair. Outbursts of verbal abuse and sarcasm may be followed by feelings of guilt.

Other signs and symptoms of BPD may include: Unlike the mood changes in other disorders which may last for weeks or months, the mood swings in BPD generally last just hours. It is common for people with BPD to feel hopeless and suicidal and then feel fairly positive a few hours later.

What are the causes of Borderline Personality Disorder?

The exact cause of BPD is unclear, but most experts agree that it is likely that the condition is caused by a combination of different factors: Family relationships have a strong impact on a person´s outlook on the world and how they perceive other people. Unsolved childhood fears, anger and suffering can have a lasting effect in adult life. They can influence a person´s thinking patterns, emotional expectations and behavior. Diagnosis of BPD is based on a psychological evaluation and the history and severity of the symptoms. A checklist of internationally recognized criteria is used for the diagnosis.

What are the treatment options for Borderline Personality Disorder?

Several types of individual talk therapy can successfully treat BPD. In addition, group therapy can help change self-destructive behaviors. In some cases, medications can help level mood swings and treat depression or other disorders that may occur with this condition.

Medication

The doctor may prescribe an antidepressant to stabilize emotional reactions, resulting in less impulsivity. Most experts say this type of medication should be a short-term treatment. Psychotherapy Psychotherapy helps the patient come to terms with and understand their own thoughts and feeling. It also suggests how the patient might effectively change and alter behavior and attitudes. A good therapist will give the patient a telephone contact in case of crises moments. Hospitalization, although uncommon, may be considered if there is a risk of self-harm.

Family members (parents, spouses and children) should be educated about the BPD diagnosis. They should have reasonable expectations from treatment and should be explained how they can contribute. Family involvement is also very important for effective treatment.

With proper treatment and support, prognosis is usually good. The outlook depends on the severity of the condition and whether the patient is willing to accept help and commit to long-term treatment.

Written by Christian Nordqvist
Original article date: 18 June 2004. Article updated: 24 February 2012.
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All roads lead to BDP

posted by Wants to Know on 16 Apr 2012 at 4:12 pm

Here is my story I married the most wonderful beautiful woman I could ever dream of getting we fell crazy for each other it was to good to be true, as they say. we were just in relationship bliss she was the one who popped the question and got married after 2 months of dating. I felt so alive and thought I had found the one. about 2 weeks into the marriage we had an argument about some trivial thing which escalated into her blurring out foul language calling me several things and engaging me right in my face like a tough guy street brawler would. I reacted shocked and being a short fuse myself i also became irritaded and lashed out at her verbally however to my suprise she reacted with a right hook to my jaw. i had never expierenced something like this in any relationship. After that she made it look like it was all my fault and I had pushed her to her limits. being a sucker for forgive me´s I did ask for an apology and took the blame in order to move forward.This was my first glance of what was to come in our 2 year marriage. i studied Psych. and I knew something was wrong with her many a time I thought could it be depression, bipolar or was it really me? I begged for her to go and get help she would always reply: I dont need help I just need you to be more understanding and give me my space!

I put myself in positions were i was manipulated into taking faults, I went to jail two times due to her violent outbursts that were twisted around to make it seem that i had been at fault.(I had never experienced being arrested or do i have any type of record) I was controled to the point that I had to break contact with really good friends, even visitng my mom was wrong because as she stated i had no buisness going there during the week when I had a home to come to and I must have some unresolved mommy issue.

I experienced a fit were she changed her mood about 5 or 6 times in a space of less than an hour over going to a neighbors wedding. I took the blame for many things just to go forward with our life and started to avoid certain topics, avoid bringing up previous arguments, which was very easy for her, my opinions and my advice became obsolete and idiotic and she was always right. I was physically abused by my wife many a time kicks, punches things thrown at me the last thing she did was she slammed my car keys in my face and produced a big gash, a lot of blood gushed out to her reply: that´s what you get when you piss me off! sorry! and left the scene and locked herself in our room.

I was always uneasy and was scared of mentioning something that would set her off and I had this gut feeling that she was seing someone else however when i brought it up she would say it was probably me who was cheating and I was projecting my own guilt. there were times when I would call her from work and she would not answer, text and nothing she would call me back after many hours saying why the hell are you checking up on me? or we just talked in the morning? however when i did not txt or call in a day she would also become very upset as well.

I became very distrustful because I have had other relationships where you get the:I just wanted to hear you, or I couldn´t wait to talk to you or the txt saying how´s your day going? After a while I would leave the house after an argument just to avoid the chaos and when i came back all hell would break loose because I had left and had to explain where I had been (almost always with a friend or family) and was accused to have been cheating on her with my female friends that she hated without actually knowing them because she despised the idea of me having female friends because as she said i was married and she didn´t approve of me seeing other women even if they were only friends.

One of her female friends (one of two that I actually ever met) who was our witness at our wedding became very close to me and often would give me little bits of info here and there about my wife called me on the phone to say hi and see how i was doing (I had made her aware of what was going on with my wife) The next day my wife was just frantic and going crazy saying how dare you? what the hell is going on? she had gone through my phone and saw that she had dialed, let me tell you it took about 2 weeks for the dust to settle on that one and she cut off all contact with her friend. when I wanted to talk about it she said it had been my fault because I should have never gotten close to any of her friends(What friends? never met anyone else) Just recently she accused me of cheating and said well go ahead and
f.... whoever you want just like you f....... my friend. wow!

another hard one to deal with was we had this argument and her sister was coming over the argument escalated and she was screamming and pushing me, when i said you know what im outa here her sister was sitting there with her jaw to the floor she said i cant be in the midle of this and my wife chased after saying: Now you see how this Idiot is ruining my life? I immediately jumped in sis in laws, car my wife was paralyzed with anger from my reaction and screamed: Get out of the car and leave my family alone! to which my sister in law reacted: Please the neighbors are gonna call the police! to this day the face that my wife produced that second was... the only thing I can describe is possessed and at the top of her lung screamed at her sister GO F....
YOURSELF TOO! and stormed into the house her sister was shatered and said I have to go i said to her please tell me im not crazy and she said you have been always right, let me go and come to my house in about 20 I dashed in the house and my wife was crying and tried to pick up the fight, she said see what you made me do? I ignored her and left quik. I went to my sis in laws house to find her devastated.
to this day mi wife and her sister do not speak to each other
my wife tried calling her a couple of times with no success
however her sister tried talking to her after a month my wife did not answer stating: Oh now she wants to talk well f..... her
This is just very very sad.

My parents started noticing my stress and would often ask me are you okay? you seem unhappy I have hidden all of these things from them because they are very old and i don´t want to cause them any health problems.I´ts been very painful for me to engage relatives when they ask me what happened? you seem like you got along so good or the give her time things will work out. I left my very comfortable house with brand new everything into a small apartment with only my clothes and some things I was able to take.

The saddest thing is she has a 6 year old daughter from a previous relationship and she has been witness to many arguments because my wife used her as a shield. I found out through her family members recently that the father is a really decent guy and lived the same situation before he called it quits, when my wife spoke of him as being the most unfaithful, cheating and abusive person ever, should I reach out to him to cope? dunno.

before I met her I was very confident, felt good about myself, was quite the charmer worked out constantly and I have always been a hard worker and pretty good at what I do I was just plain happy. today after 2 months of being separated (due to her not being able to put up with me being so aprehensive and so uncaring and loving as she stated) I feel like these two years have been a true waste of time, energy and emotionally draining. My wife has not been formaly diagnosed since she hates the idea of getting therapy she believes people who need therapy are weak minded however I have been going to therapy with one of my professors from school and after much soul searching and going through the specifics, her family background, reactions, symptoms and recordings i have done of her when we had recent arguments over the dreaded divorce my therapist has indicated it is more than likely she has BPD. the proof is so overwhelming and personaly it just makes sense!

A month ago I asked her to go through the divorce I had set the date and time and she didn´t show up I called and had no answer it wasn´t until the next day her excuse was she had an issue at her daughter´s school however later said she still cared for me and wanted not to work things out but to allow her time to reconcile her feelings on the issue. I have researched so much on improving the relationship and steps on getting resolve so we went out on dates and I would always end up with no resolution and just a bad feeling all around. everytime I would bring up our situation she would say: please! we have been through this, I will not go around in circles, I have told you how I feel and what needs to be said has been said! it´s just damn painful.
I even wrote her a sincere apology letter a few days ago and gave her a beautiful bouquet of roses to see if I could reach out to her, this was Friday, she seemed grateful and understanding and Saturday when we went out she displayed a complete apathy toward what had ocurred the previous day I learned her grandmother was ill so on sunday decided to pay her a visit. To my shock and utter disappointment my wife had given her grandmother the bouquet i had just given her on Friday. this is just too much for me to bear, to me this just doesn´t seem rational behaviour it is very hurtful and painful and if this BPD I feel very sorry for my wife, I truly love her however we do not have children or property that can tie us down, her family members are unaware of this disorder but have expressed all the simptoms of abuse from her and they think that she is just childish and inmature, after this weekend I confronted her and after several hang ups and verbal abuse I told her that i would pay for the divorce and get this done she said yes and that she agrees, I am just so tired and drained! I love her dearly however after 2 years of feeling at fault of being lied too, feeling like a fool I don´t believe I have the inclination to put myself through this any longer (am i being a jerk?) and as much time, effort and emotion I invested in the relationship the uncertainty of her taking a first step towards recovery based on her condition is just too much… I understand this is a disorder however I feel like I am not the one who will help her.

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Prognosis is still up in the air

posted by Lauren on 12 Apr 2012 at 9:56 pm

I've read so many articles and books about BPD and most of them don't give solid answers about prognosis and full recovery is something that can be done and what the statistics are. It is so frustrating not knowing if your mind will be like this always or depending on hard you work or how bad you are which is subjective.

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BPD Pain For the spouse

posted by Tim on 5 Apr 2012 at 4:49 am

My wife has BPD. She has cut her arms, burned herself, broke things around the home, riped up ingoing and out going mail and blamed the mail man for it, told the courts I was arested for domestic violance and that I do those things to her. I have a clean record of no arrests or anything. She left for two yrs once and went from womens shelter to womens shelter for those two years. I tryed to tell the shelters she was sick and what would happen but I was looked at as a bad man. It was only when she turned on the people in the shelter that I got a call saying come get your wife. I did out of the love I had for her. It was not long before it all started again, the self harm, lieing, damaging things around the house. For 7 years after she came home I have tryed to cope with her illness.
On march 29 2012 she kissed me good bye and said I love you as I left for work. Within hours she was at a womens shelter again. I text her and left mesages for her and a few times she text me back but with short remarks like yes or no or ok. Never a strait answer.I got police escort and went to her place she cleans to retreave our jeep, as for the last time she left she got our truck impounded and auctioned off by the police before I knew about it. She was in shelters, I did not know where she was nor could I go to the shelter if I did know.
She is in another shelter and this time I know where it is due to the fact I was a city bus driver in the town where the shelter is and you almost need A PHD in counseling to drive a city bus when picking up persons from places like that.
even though I am her payee for her ssi check, medicare, and am to monitor her on her meds ect the police, her counsoler, and everyone says I cant do nothing. She put a restraining order on me two days ago so now I cant call, text, write or go around her at all. My blood Pressure went to 250 over 147 and I almost stroked out. An ambulance took me to the hospital and in two days I am out to face the aligation that I pinned her against the wall and yelled and screamed at her. I never did such thing but that is what people with BPD do to the ones they are close to. Her family try to support me but ask that I do not divorce as my wife could not handle it. I feel it is they don't want to deal with it direct. I was not told of this illness until after we were maried. My wife told me of how she was abused but it was all a lie. don,t know what to do. any addvise?

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Very hard reality

posted by AnnieP on 14 Mar 2012 at 5:53 pm

my daughter has been suffering from borderline personnality severely for 2yrs now.She is only 16 and has overdosed,ran away,mutilated herself real bad on both arms.she will be scarred SEVERELY for the rest of her life.She is surrounded by very competent professionnals,psychiatrist,psychologist and other intervenants.She still is doing the shuttle between,emergency,pediatrics,psychiatry hospital and youth center.The youth centerhelps with her behavioral problems and the psychiatric departement helps with BPD.But UNFORTUNATELY their is no center that covers all the problems under one roof.They just seem to be throwing her around and constantly telling us,that she is making the choices and that we have no control.Easy to say...watching our daughter auto destroy is killing us :(( We feel absolutly helpless.It has to be the sadess thing,to watch your daughter in an endless state of sadness and wanting to hurt herself.It is living HELL.I wish their was a specialized center for this disorder. Annie

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I believe people with borderline personality disorder DO get treatment

posted by Kathryn on 25 Feb 2012 at 9:58 pm

I disagree strongly with Brian. I believe people with borderline personality disorder DO get treatment. However, how many begin treatment for depression or other issues, not even realizing that they have serious issues from very dysfunctional families that may mean they display behaviors that may make a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder an accurate one? And yes, they and their behavior(s) may become infuriating to their mental health therapist and other providers--and to them as well. Especially as they learn to trust themselves and other people healthily, learn appropriate boundaries, and learn how to modulate their roller coaster emotions and responses to events. Also, I don't believe it's easy to be a person who lives with borderline personality disorder. However, they deserve respect as people. And informed friends, family, and colleagues as they sometimes blunder their way back to health.

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Not Factual

posted by Brian on 24 Feb 2012 at 10:09 am

The statement "With proper treatment and support, prognosis is usually good." is not true. Most of these patients will not seek treatment because they believe everyone else is to blame but themselves. Even when they do seek treatment they are so difficult to deal with that their therapist may 'fire' them or they may quit when told how screwed up their behavior is. About 10% commit suicide.

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I understand a little more but still feel lost - borderline personality disorder

posted by anonymous on 18 Jan 2012 at 11:10 am

I have a relative who seems to be borderline. I have come to realize that this may have really turned ugly when they were in their earlier teens. They have a strong hatred towards their sibling, and although the hate is geared towards the sibling it affects everyone around. My cousin is aware not having everything alright, but will not take medication and lies to all therapists she has seen. is there any other way the family can help? she doesnt want help but she is litterally breaking the family apart into pieces. and has her parents brainwashed.

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Thank you!

posted by Lola on 4 Oct 2004 at 2:39 pm

I have some symptoms of depression, but that did not explain my irrational behavior towards my fiance. The article helped me to realize that there may be a reason for my behavior and I can get help. I never understood my behavior, but now realize that I finally have to accept things that have happened in the past, can affect your behavior.

Although I was abused, abandoned and neglected as a child, I have always said people just use those things as an excuse, and of course there was nothing wrong with me!?! I realize now, because of this article that maybe I do need some help coping with things. Not to say the article "diagnosed" me, but gave me some insight. Thank you!

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