Sexual arousal includes both psychological and physical arousal. There are many ways to stimulate arousal, including foreplay and the use of sex toys. Over-the-counter and medical remedies may also help.
Psychological arousal causes a person to want sex and physical arousal causes physical changes that make it easier for a person to have sex.
Although these two factors often go hand in hand, some people may have challenges with one or both aspects of arousal.
It is worth noting that issues with arousal are likely to be multifactorial. For example, any of the following could have an impact on a person’s ability to become aroused:
However, there are several things that a person can try to increase arousal levels. Read on for tips and remedies for getting turned on.
Males who experience arousal problems
Issues with arousal
Males with arousal challenges may find that making simple lifestyle changes, such as communicating more openly with a partner or sharing sexual desires, can help.
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Alternatively, males could consider masturbating, fantasizing, or engaging in other forms of stimulation before participating in partnered sex.
As males age, it
Erectile dysfunction (ED)
ED is the most common reason that males seek help with sexual issues.
- Be mindful of the role that mental health plays in ED: Stress and relationship problems can sometimes affect arousal. If a doctor has confirmed this as the cause of a person’s difficulties, they may wish to consult a sex therapist, who can help them explore any mental barriers to arousal before they start taking medications.
- Ask a doctor about ED medications: These may help with ED of unknown origin or when lifestyle remedies do not work.
- Weigh up the benefits of other remedies if ED drugs do not work: Trying penis pumps, undergoing surgery to place a penile implant, and seeking similar procedures may help when there is a challenging medical condition causing ED. A person should always speak with a doctor before trying any home remedies.
These males may wish to try the following tips:
- If premature ejaculation is an issue, try the “squeeze method.” This technique involves squeezing where the head of the penis meets that shaft to prevent ejaculation.
- Experiment with different sexual positions and new fantasies. Some males simply need more stimulation to ejaculate.
- Get a prostate exam. Sometimes, prostate health issues can cause ejaculation problems such as painful ejaculation.
Female arousal issues typically fall into one or more of three categories:
- difficulty feeling interested in sex
- difficulty getting sufficiently lubricated for sex
- difficulty reaching orgasm
Remedies that work for one problem, such as low arousal, often work for another.
So, a female may wish to consider the following tips:
- Focus on clitoral stimulation: Stereotypical presentations of sex often focus on male pleasure and penis-in-vagina intercourse. However, many females need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. When a female routinely does not get clitoral stimulation or orgasm, they may lose interest in sex.
- Use a sexual lubricant: Some females experience vaginal dryness, even when they feel aroused. Others feel less interested in sex because they fear that dryness will cause pain. Although this can happen at any age, it is
more commonafter menopause.
- Add in more foreplay: As females tend to take longer than males to orgasm, females who have sex with males may need more foreplay to feel aroused.
- Enjoy getting to know one’s own body: Over time, this can increase arousal. Try exploring one’s sexual interests, and be sure to communicate this to a sexual partner. Make sure all parties fully consent whenever trying new things.
- Ask a doctor about medications: Females with a very low sex drive may find that taking a medication specifically approved for increasing libido helps. However,
these drugs remain controversial, as research suggests that they only modestly increase sexual desire. Interventions such as more foreplay may work better.
- Ask a doctor about hormone therapy: Females who experience vaginal dryness or low libido may find relief from hormone therapy. After menopause, hormone replacement therapy with estrogen
may help improve arousal.
A note on consent
It is important to note that enthusiastic consent is a requirement regarding sexual interaction. Consent is voluntary, unambiguous, ongoing, and not just assumed, no matter the circumstances. People incapacitated by sleep, drugs, or alcohol are unable to consent.
If all participants do not give clear consent throughout the encounter, it is sexual assault.
Although there are physiological differences between males and females that may affect how they become aroused and the ways that arousal manifests,
Some strategies that may help most people feel more aroused include:
- Watching pornography, either alone or with a partner: Although research into the long-term effects of pornography use produces inconclusive and controversial results, short-term porn use may help people become aroused. A 2016 interview-based study of couples found that people who watched porn felt more comfortable talking about sex.
- Spending time thinking about sex: This can help a person identify their sexual desires and preferences.
- Considering the role of mental health: Anxiety, depression, trauma, and the way a person feels about their relationship
may all affect arousal. Trying relaxation exercises, self-care, medication changes, and therapy may help.
- Masturbating: Masturbating before having sex with a partner may make it easier to become and stay aroused. Masturbation may also help a person identify their sexual interests, and it may increase sex drive. A 2015 study of middle-aged women found that masturbation increased testosterone levels. Testosterone
may help increaselibido, though more research is needed.
- Practicing open communication about desires and needs with a sexual partner: Talking about sex outside the bedroom may help increase interest in sex. It may also make sex more pleasurable and arousing for each partner. Couples who find it challenging to discuss sex may find that sex therapy helps.
- Talking with a doctor: A wide range of medical conditions, especially those that affect the endocrine system, may cause arousal problems. Menopause, age-related hormone changes, and certain medications may also play a role. A doctor may be able to recommend treatment, switch a person’s medications, or diagnose an underlying health issue.
- Exercising, eating a nutritious diet, and maintaining a moderate weight: Cardiovascular disease and diabetes can both cause sexual dysfunction. Adopting a healthy lifestyle reduces the risk of cardiovascular disease.
- Considering changing birth control methods: For some people, contraceptives affect sexual desire. For example, certain types of condoms may reduce sensation, while hormonal birth control methods may affect libido.
- Using sex toys: Vibrators, dildos, and other sex toys may offer additional stimulation and improve arousal for both partners.
A person may wish to consult a doctor if they:
- have a sudden change in their sexual experience, libido, or orgasm pattern
- have tried home remedies or lifestyle changes, but they have not worked
- experience side effects following the use of a new medication
- have a chronic illness and begin experiencing sexual side effects
- have other symptoms, such as painful urination or ejaculation
- have significant emotional distress that is affecting their functioning
Many different factors can affect sexual arousal. For many people, the issue is multifaceted, with psychological, lifestyle, and physical factors all playing a role. Taking a sensitive approach and seeking medical intervention for chronic health concerns can both help.
Sexual health matters. People who experience arousal issues should speak with a doctor and ask for help until their sexual health issues improve.
It is also important to speak with a doctor for arousal issues as they can sometimes signal an underlying health issue. It may also help for a person to speak with a mental health professional, as emotional and mental health issues can often be contributing factors.